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“It was not that this man or his parents sinned, but that the works of God might be displayed in him.”- John 9:3
If you’re in a painful season, I want you to hang out with me here for a sec. Someone needs to hear this truth!
After I lost my first child I struggled hard with trying to understand the “why” of it all. I felt like God was punishing me for something I had done to allow that kind of pain into my life. Being in ministry with women who are going through that loss, and infertility, I can tell you honestly that there are many well-meaning Christians Who would tell a woman that if she just has more faith then she will be given the desires of her heart. That if she would just go to church more, then maybe God wouldn’t have allowed her baby to die. Horrible, I know. But I know real women who have been told things like this, and honestly my heart felt that all on my own after losing my baby.
But Jesus. Jesus reminds us in the story of the blind man who received his sight that our pain has a purpose! Sometimes in life we are allowed hard things because that very thing may be what helps the next person to see Jesus. Now, we can either sit and wallow in our hard, or we can choose to take that pain and use it for God’s glory.
Over the last decade of my life, I have learned this lesson firsthand. If you’re struggling through a hard season in your marriage, financially, in your singleness, the loss of a child, the loss of a parent, whatever your hard may be- be open to what God might want to do through you. Share your story. Talk about it with others who are experiencing the same thing. Be a giver of hope. Being willing to talk about our rough first year of marriage, I have seen help young wives to make it through their own. Sharing about our miscarriage has helped countless other women. I say this not to brag on myself, but as a testament to Jesus.
If you’re still sitting in the throes of that hard season, I simply want to tell you to hang in there! Better days are ahead. It will get easier. Just know that even though it may not feel like it right now, God can use this pain for good! it is never for nothing.