Losing a baby is hard. It is something that unfortunately, so many go through, and there really isn’t any way around it but to just grieve through it. (I’ve been there myself, and with my ministry I talk to so many women who are in that place, too!).
When someone you love has lost a baby, it can be hard to know exactly what to do to help. I wrote this post to help with what to say, but if you are like me, gift giving is my love language. I absolutely love to send something tangible. And while “things” can’t erase the pain, having something to hold (or lift your spirits) can go a long way to making things a little easier! My sister gifted me a beautiful necklace after our loss and it was one of the most meaningful things anyone has ever given me!
I have rounded up a list of things that I love to gift, just in case you need some ideas for how to help your loved one, too! (Click the pink links to go to the item!)
This verse is so comforting, especially in a season of loss. It may not feel like it in that moment, but God has a plan for every painful thing! With a blank inside, this is great because it can be used as a prayer journal, bible study journal, or just a space to mentally dump burdens onto paper!
This is one that I just recently discovered, but will definitely use all the time! Not only is it a beautiful gift for a friend (or yourself), but it is far from a basic journal. It has areas to write to the baby (this was super healing for me!) and add any other memories that you want to cherish. It also has worksheets for emotional support and grief to help work through special or difficult days (like the due date), gratitude prompts, and devotional prompts. It really is a beautifully thought out journal!
If you know me (or read me often) you know I love me some Lysa T. She hits the nail on the head with this one, for so many different reasons. She really helps refocus the heart on what to do when God’s timing and purpose seems doubtful. It’s a great book for anyone to read!
It is so easy in our hurry to care for the mom, to forget about dad and his heart, too! This beautifully written collection of letters brings some solidarity and comfort to the guys. Make sure you don’t forget them!
This book is so sweet for families that have other children. Many times, parents choose not to tell their kids about a loss. But often, especially in later term losses, the conversation has to be had. This precious book helps to explain the complexity of the topic to little minds in a way that is very healing!
I have to admit, when I first saw the price of this one, I wasn’t sure about it. But once I got it in hand, I am SOLD! This ring is so beautiful, and could be given to anyone going through something hard. It has the words “My Story Isn’t Over Yet” inscribed on the inside of the ring, which is an awesome reminder of hope through the hard. This one is especially sweet if she has been trying to conceive for a long time. It comes in a beautiful gift box with a silver cloth, and is perfectly dainty and sweet!
Another one I am sorry I ever doubted! This is a beautiful piece, packaged so nicely with a silver cloth, too! It is a more subtle way to honor a child (in that someone looking at it wouldn’t know specifically what it was for) and is really neat gift for those who don’t want to be public about their loss. It can also just be a sweet mother and child gift, with a gorgeous crystal in the center!
This one quote was my favorite after my loss. It is a beautiful reminder of the love that I gave my baby and will continue to give until I take my last breath! So of course when I saw this bracelet, I loved it! It is a great quality, and again, the inscription is tucked privately on the inside, just in case they don’t want to tell the world!
This little ornament is so beautiful and makes a sweet gift! They may tuck it away for the tree, so that their little one can be with them at Christmas time, but many choose to display it! I have seen these on book shelves and even hung in memorial gardens. Such a special way to honor loss of any loved one!
Last but not least by any means! This is such a beautiful gift for anyone! I love the simple charm of a Willow tree, and it can serve as a beautiful memorial piece. The perfect gift if you truly don’t know what else to give, and you can give it to anyone grieving a loss!
I hope this list is helpful! I know it can be so hard to know what to do when you see someone that you care about hurting. Like I said, I have gifted each of these items multiple times and they have all been received with extremely thankful (and emotional) hearts! You can’t go wrong with any of them.